...is doing the best they can with what they've got.
Most people don't believe that, and it's evident by the immense amount of shaming, blaming and complaining so prevalent in our culture.
If it was believed that everyone was doing their best, complaining would be replaced with empathy, support, and dare I say, prayer for the other.
Fact: If you believed what the person you've decided to judge believed about the world, you'd behave the way they're behaving!
Reread that a few more times.
All behavior is learned and contextually significant.
If you were raised critically, you're going to be critical of everyone, not because you're a bad person but because you've perfectly adapted to an environment of criticism.
Of course, protective behavior can be unlearned, but there are layers upon layers of narratives, storylines, worldviews and emotions that make that reality challenging to step into.
What inhibits unlearning is gossip and hate and what promotes it is generosity and love.
You're either part of the problem or part of the solution but you can't be both.
"Go and love someone exactly as they are and then watch how quickly they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their own essence, one is instantly empowered." Wes Angelozzi