When someone hits an emotional pothole in life (abused, criticized, rejected, neglected, ignored, etc.), it disrupts the alignment of their MindBodySpirit® and creates a gaping void.
It's human nature to try filling that void with everything and everyone (unrealistic expectations, eating, drinking, smoking, binge-watching/binge-scrolling, etc.) to disprove the experience, numb the pain, and erase the memory.
The more you push it away, the stronger it comes back at you.
Reality is, the only way to transcend your painful experiences is to include it them your story, all the while, appreciating those encounters were in no way a representation of your perfect Identity.
Your shape hasn't changed; only your perception of it has.
"No one belongs here more than you." Brene Brown