I know what to do, but I just don’t do it—ugh! How many times have we all said that?
Ever wonder why you’re not doing it? You may blame it on laziness or a lack of discipline, but it goes deeper than that.
First things first, It has nothing to do with knowing what to do, that’s only part of the equation. Knowing what to do is the intellectual side of it, doing it is all emotional.
Believe it or not, it all comes back to what you believe about yourself, which were mostly formed by experiences during your formative years.
If you believe...
- I'm not smart enough, it’s unlikely you’re going to study for the test.
- I'm not pretty enough, you’re probably going to bail on the pool party.
- I'm not good enough, exerting effort probably feels like you’re failing.
So, the reason you’re not doing whatever you’re not doing is that you run the emotional risk of having your limiting core belief validated and it’s safer and more comfortable to do nothing than it is to become vulnerable to the tension that causes transformation.
Your core beliefs were formed by experiences and can only be redefined by separating your identity from those experiences.
This healing process is not initiated with effort, it begins with self-acceptance.
"No level of self-improvement will ever make up for a lack of self-acceptance." Robert Holden