As a MindBodySpirit Coach, one of my core tenets is to equip people with the skill sets they need to live life in a thriving state.
One of those skills is "time management."
I put TM in quotes because I believe how we manage our time is relative to our perception of our self-worth.
To that end, I teach worthiness management, relative to time.
One of the most powerful tools I know of is the time management matrix developed by Franklin Covey.
They categorize time into four quadrants: Important and not important, urgent and not urgent.
I'll urge clients to invest time identifying which quadrant each activity on their to-do list falls within.
What most people discover is they lead very urgent lifestyles consumed by unimportant work (unimportant relative to their goals).
While this sounds horrible, it's terrific news because awareness precedes transformation and once they see it, they can't unsee it, which leads to accountability and meaningful action.
Recently, one client made an insightful discovery, which actually stimulated this blog post!
She said, I realize there are tasks on my list that are important, but they're not important to me, they're important to other people.
When I heard this, I smiled on the inside from ear-to-ear because these sorts of realizations are evidence she's accessing the present moment, not just collecting but connecting dots and is inadvertently blessing everyone around her, whether she knows it or not.
It's an excellent question to ask: Who is this important to?
While it's great showing up for others, it's just not sustainable, enjoyable or rewarding if you're not showing up for yourself first.
Said another way: You can't pour water from an empty bucket!
"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." Brene Brown
This post is dedicated to R.K. Narra.