Charles Cooley was quoted for saying: "I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am. I am what I think that you think I am. "
While fascinating, not everyone operates under this pretense.
Some people know who they are apart from what they think people think about them.
Well, there are many reasons, and it largely comes back to order.
People who grow up with a strong foundation: strong role models, consistent routines, healthy validation, generous love, and compassionate support tend to have the mental, emotional, and spiritual stability to endure the slings and arrows of life.
Unfortunately, a vast majority of people grow up inside of disorder, never properly mirrored, left unsure of themselves, and subconsciously subscribe to the quote, because they were never told any different.
"I am." Exodus 3:14