The Whole Person Blog: Week Five, Day Six, Part 2/2 - What comes around must go around
Video presentation based on the book
Daily Meditations written by Richard Rohr on 12-Step Spirituality
Breathing Under Water online course
Friday, January 31st, 2020
Step 12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Of course, the last step has to "pay-it-forward," otherwise, if what comes around does not go around, it will not come around again. This is the essential meaning of Flow, of Love, and God. One way I help my clients pay the gifts they've received forward is through what I call a Sharing Opportunity, which is sharing what they're learning about themselves with others. The beauty in exposing and revealing their story is 1. It destroys the ego, 2. Releases identification with imperfections, and 3. It spreads Love around, healing others too. If MindBodySpirit Coaching does not result in an enhancement of the lives of those around my clients, I will find it very difficult to say we've been successful.
"Until people's basic egocentricity is radically exposed, revealed for what it is, and foundationally redirected, much religion becomes occupied with rearranging deck chairs on a titanic cruise ship, cruising with isolated passengers, each maintaining his or her personal program for happiness, while the whole ship is sinking. I am afraid Bill Plotkin, psychologist, and agent of cultural transformation, is truthful and fair when he says that we live in a "patho-adolescent" culture. One of the few groups that name that phenomenon unapologetically is Alcoholics Anonymous. Read, for example, page 62 of the Big Book: "So our troubles are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme of self-will run riot, though he or she does not think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us!" What courage it took Bill Wilson to talk this way."
The most subtle and significant form of selfishness I see is expectations. Yes, there is the healthy kind, the kind you set (intentionally or unintentionally) that provide enough certainty/safety so that you can productively function as a human being. And then, there's the other kind, the kind that causes chronic states of frustration, disappointment, and resentment, the kind that operates with immaturity and stubbornness when one doesn't get their way, and the kind that refuses to meet reality where it's at. Unless and until we surrender to the nature of reality (which very well may also be the nature of God), I don't believe we're capable of experiencing foundational transformation, as our egoic need for control will stifle our ability to experience profound levels of peaceful, loving joy.
"If good works do not accompany faith, it is quite dead." James 2:14