Unhelpful quotes #1

If you follow my blog, you know that I end everyone with a quote highlighting my post's essence.

Naturally, I come across many quotes that I find to be particularly unhelpful at helping people recognize their wholeness.

Of course, all quotes "belong" because they merely reveal their author's level of consciousness, effectively communicating how they see the world, which is never wrong, nor does it detract from their inherent worthiness.

"Hating someone makes them important. Forgiving them makes them obsolete."

What makes this quote unhelpful...

  • Both sides of this statement exclude, promoting division and separateness, which is indicative of the false self.

  • The reference to important and obsolete exposes the ego's insecurity and need to position itself below or above others.

  • The problem with hating someone isn't that it makes them important; the problem is the hater is attached to, harboring, and confined by fearful energy, limiting access to the peaceful, loving joy that exists within them.

  • Forgiveness, with the intent to make someone non-existent, lacks grace, and the wound suffered, is unlikely to heal.

  • There's no restoration of either party, and both will remain incomplete.

I sense that the author was hurt by someone and couldn't recall who they were apart from their wounding, and forgiving their perpetrator was a means of getting them off their minds.

Allow me a little reframe to get the author's point across and allow both parties to evolve: "Hating someone limits freedom. Forgiving them frees us both."

When quotes lack empathy and the desire to seek understanding, awareness doesn't improve, and growth is unlikely.

"Nothing in life is to be feared (hated). It is only to be understood." Marie Curie



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