When it comes to protective behaviors, we've all rounded the mountain a time or two.
The challenge we face is that we try to stop engaging protective behaviors before we fully understand why they exist and the function they serve.
What we resist, persists.
And because we don't learn from our ways, we keep repeating them, wondering why we keep "getting in our own way," and even hating ourselves for it.
Protective behaviors are never solved by way of action, but through awareness, that leads to understanding, which offers learning, and eventually leads to outgrowing the pattern rather than solving it.
"There are only patterns, patterns on top of patterns, patterns that affect other patterns. Patterns hidden by patterns. Patterns within patterns." Chuck Palahniuk