What percentage of the problems you're facing today are related to control?
Ask yourself: If I were to accept my life and every circumstance and scenario as is, how many of my problems would disappear?
If you're like most, upon surrender, you wouldn't have any issues left.
Therefore, the primary problem is your need for control and the secondary problem is the thing you call the problem.
"The moment of surrender is not when life is over, it's when it begins." Marianne Williamson