If I were playing a game and "won," I'd be "happy."
Conversely, if I were playing that same game and "lost," I'd be "sad."
You can immediately sense the superficiality of emotions in this scenario, with my feelings being driven by circumstances entirely outside of my control.
The deeper issue, of course, is our culture measure of "success" is winning; and might I add power and control.
If we're to develop emotional stability, health, and resilience, we need to learn how to anchor our identity to something much deeper and more grounded, which does not alter with external circumstances.
This way, when a loss of any sort occurs, we can remain emotionally steadfast, knowing who we are apart from our experiences.
To discover this Self, ask:
- Who am I?
- What's inherently good about me?
- Why do I allow myself to be defined by my outer experiences?
- Who was I before I was ever rejected or made to feel inferior?
- Can I anchor to "Something" larger than myself, liberating an abundance of peace, love, and joy?
"My spirit is grounded deep in the earth. I am calm, strong, centered, and peaceful. I am able to let go of fear and trust that I am eternally safe. I am worthy of all things beautiful." Carly Marie