The Whole Person Blog: Week Eight, Day Four, Part 1/2 - The Roadblocks
Writings inspired by Brene Brown: The Gifts of Imperfection - Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You The Power of Vulnerability Listening to Shame Call to Courage Netflix Trailer Wednesday, February 19th, 2020
Brene shared a story around being extended an invitation to present at a women's networking meeting, which, for her, was a refreshing alternative to the talks she typically gave in academia. Just before she took the stage, the organizer of the event, asked her not to talk about shame, fear, or vulnerability (the essence of her research). Instead, she told her she had to talk about "how-to" be joyful and adding meaning to our lives. In short, the presentation was a trainwreck, which also affected her when more significant opportunities presented themselves in the future.
What came out of it though was incredible, she said: "If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way––especially shame, fear, and vulnerability."
This reminds me of my practice as a MindBodySpirit® Coach. Clients approach me wanting to reach a goal they believe will make them happy once they achieve it. But realizing goals can't make you happy, and the more important question is: Why aren't you already happy? What's gotten in the way of your happiness? What painful experiences have formed the limitings beliefs that drive your protective behaviors that led to your unwanted symptoms? Yes, talking about what gets in the way is difficult, but minus tension, there is no transformation.
"Shame corrodes the part of us that believes we can change and do better." Brene Brown