The Whole Person Blog: Week Eight, Day Six, Part 1/2 - The Real You
Writings inspired by Brene Brown: The Gifts of Imperfection - Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You The Power of Vulnerability Listening to Shame Call to Courage Netflix Trailer Friday, February 21st, 2020
Guidepost #1: Cultivating Authenticity - Letting go of what people think
In this chapter, Brene writes about authenticity, being who you really are. Steven Pressfield refers to this as living your unlived life, while Richard Rohr calls this your True Self. What I love is her practicality, in that she relates to authenticity as a practice, which perfectly manages one's expectations of the evolutionary nature of all change or becoming. You'd think that 13.8 billion years into existence, we would have gotten the joke already, but seemingly, God didn't make us that way, so we need continual reminding.
"Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen."
When referring to authenticity, positing it as a choice is brilliant because it grants us the dignity of our free will, which along with it comes agency, empowerment, and freedom. Minus the choice to be inauthentic, authenticity has no significance or meaning. In my MindBodySpirit® Coaching practice, I always expose the necessity of choice, as it offers an opportunity to develop one of the greatest soft skills required to lead a productive, happy life: resilience.
Resilience, if you think about it, is a foundational quality of authenticity, and it's worth mentioning, to be authentic is not to be perfect. In fact, Brene defines it as cultivating the authenticity to be imperfect. It's in our imperfect moments that we fall short of the "glory of God," which is always a perfect moment for humanity as it necessarily humiliates and humbles our egos, helping us surrender and collapse back into our True Nature. Said another way, the way up is down. It's when we're down that we look up and rely upon others (connection), rely upon something greater than ourselves (trust), and rely upon grace to help us fall upward (growth).
"Often, people attempt to live their lives backward: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you really need to do, in order to have what you want." Margaret Young