...is their false self.
And it's worth mentioning that the only part of you that's capable of being hurt is your false self.
The false self has always and will always have false problems.
The core of who you are, your True Self, is unhurtable.
Your True Self is stable, secure, and surrendered because its identity is centered on its relationship to and with Something larger than itself; which pales in comparison to its interactions with other, imperfect people.
"Everything has changed and yet, I am more me than I've ever been." Iain Thomas