...is to help yourself through your challenges.
Advice rarely, if ever, changes people.
Not because intentions aren't positive, more because intellectual knowledge is a distant second from experiential knowledge.
Loving yourself through a shameful encounter is the best way to help someone through a bout of shame.
Think less about words and more about modeling.
How you do you is important because one day someone's going to hope you did it well.
"Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have." Robert Holden