Updated: Jul 27, 2019
When the demands in someone's life are greater than their resources, they're in survival mode.
When someone is in survival mode, they're not happy, and unhappy people have a significantly decreased chance of creating sustainable transformation.
People often fall prey to the belief that they need a total lifestyle makeover to improve their quality of life, and that's rarely true. This thought process is the derivative of the all-or-none mentality, and a subconscious attempt to avoid failure, rejection, and having their limiting core beliefs validated.
Interestingly, people in this situation don't need to take action to enhance their status, as much as they need to increase awareness of how they're participating in their challenges.
Here are the top 10 demands I see unnecessarily draining people's precious, finite resources…
1. Focused on outcomes instead of effort
2. Confusing events of their lives with their identity
3. Placing unrealistic expectations on everything
4. Trying to control things outside of their control
5. Self-critical nature and judgmental ways
6. Perfectionism and people-pleasing
7. Measuring success by how much gets done on their to-do list
8. All-or-none, black-or-white thinking
9. No willingness to endure mystery, paradox, unknowns, and uncertainty
10. Believing they are separate from a divine Source of Love
Once these patterns are observed and understood, they can be broken, and evolution can finally take place.
"I don't trust words, I even question actions, but I never doubt patterns." Anonymous