I recently watched an interview where Tony Robbins was interviewing Martine Rothblatt, founder of XM Radio and she made a comment around needing to work through 99 NO's before reaching a YES, and while her grit and tenacity are admirable one level, it's unattractive on another.
America and much of the world has become so infatuated with success at the expense of joy, contentment, and fulfillment. If we can't see the foundational goodness within us (outside of anything performance-related), we'll continue manipulating our outer worlds to fill the gaping void's in our inner worlds.
Let me reframe her statement to be less performance-based and more whole-hearted: "I am a YES, and I worked through 99 YES's until someone noticed the YES inside of me." Can you feel the difference? This isn't semantics, it's a fundamental difference between egocentricity and soulfulness, hustling and generous expression, and proving and knowing.
"Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." Carl Jung