We signed my son up for indoor lacrosse this season and he was part of a losing team.
They lost--Every. Single. Game.
I spoke to him about the importance of showing up for himself and his team for their final game, regardless of their record.
When we got there, they barely had enough players to play, with only two kids on the bench as substitutes.
The kids were exhausted because they were outnumbered, their teammates didnt show up to share the load.
Correction, their parents didnt show up, they didn't like to see their kids lose, it reminded them of their own insecurities and it displayed their inability to tolerate loss.
Life is not about winning, it's about showing up, giving it your best, losing graciously, accepting reality and taking your next step.
Because losing is not a reflection of our identity...it's not who we are but the ego doesn't always get the joke--it feels too personal.
Those kids missed one of the greatest lessons of all time at a formative age...how to fail successfully and be resilient when things aren't going their way.
It's not entirely the parents fault either, its cultural conditioning and choosing to fly into the wind is always a conscious and courageous decision.
"The supreme quality for leadership is unquestionably integrity. Without it, no real success is possible, no matter whether it is on a section gang, a football field, in an army, or in an office." Dwight D. Eisenhower