If you're a health, fitness or wellness professional and find yourself becoming frustrated with, disappointed by or resentful of your clients' behavior or lack of progress, you've effectively made their program about you.
It's not about you!
It doesn't matter that...
- They're paying you to tell them what to do, and they're not doing it
- They come five minutes late to most of your sessions
- They say one thing and do another
You're upset because your clients aren't meeting your expectations, but the bigger problem is that you're rejecting reality.
I get it, their lack of adherence makes you feel inferior, disrespected and rejected, but it's important to separate their actions from your professional value and personal worth. What's happening here is these encounters serve as painful reminders of your past experiences.
It can be helpful to think of your client as the driver and you as the passenger in your engagement. They are in complete control of the steering wheel. They have to be free to make the mistake of taking a wrong turn; otherwise, making right turns are not rewarding.
Your primary responsibility is to create awareness they take wrong turns, try to understand why and guide them back towards the route towards their preferred state--that's it!
The last thing you want is for your client relationships to become fear-based, codependent or self-serving. Once that's the case, they may "change," but their hearts are definitely not expanding.
"Leadership is communicating to people their worth and potential so clearly that they come to see it for themselves." Stephen Covey