Having served people as A Whole Person: MindBodySpirit® over the last twenty years, I've noticed a consistent pattern that I would refer to as universal.
When things are going "good" for people, they're quite guarded, close-minded, more defensive, and their ego boundaries are set firmly in place.
Then, when shit hits the fan (and it always does), there's a softening, an openness, an increased desire for understanding, and a willingness to see how they may be complicit in their challenges.
This reminded me of 2nd Corinthians 12:10 when Paul said: "That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong."
When we're moved to the edge of our resources, we inherently become vulnerable and allow ourselves to rely on resources Greater than our own. Unfortunately, up until that point, the ego is far too stubborn and unable to surrender control.
This is why Father Thomas Keating charted the path to transformation as a series of necessary humiliations!
These moments almost always lead to a breakthrough...and usually followed by a retreat back to known misery...and the process repeats.
Nothing will ever change the fact that transformation is evolutionary, a subtle and gradual letting go of that which no longer serves us (addition by subtraction).
"Everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die." Joe Louis