...it's because you had expected something else to happen.
And expectations, as William Shakespeare so eloquently states, are the root of all heartache.
They're not inherently bad, but they do become problematic when you can't accept the reality of a situation.
Expectations are part of our survival wiring; we use them to make predictions and maintain a sense of control.
So the question becomes: Who are you when you don't get your way?
"Each day holds a surprise. But only if we expect it can we see, hear, or feel it when it comes to us. Let's not be afraid to receive each day's surprise, whether it comes to us as sorrow or as joy It will open a new place in our hearts, a place where we can welcome new friends and celebrate more fully our shared humanity." Henri Nouwen