I've often wondered why and how it is that so many people have put so much effort into improving their physical health with such little yield.
It's mindboggling when you consider that someone may struggle their entire life to lose weight and never get there!
Over the last 20 years, I've been researching the mechanics of how poeple approach their goals, and now, the lack of results makes perfect sense.
Consider 3 planes, from superficial to deep: physical, mental/emotional, and spiritual.
In short, the physical realm is where our imbalances manifest and we spend too much time; while the remaining realms contain the source of our asymmetries and we invest too little time.
1. Physical: I see this belly fat, and I want to get rid of it.
2. Mental/emotional: I'm my own biggest critic, I know what to do I just don't do it, I'm too busy to make myself a priority, anxiety, depression, etc.
3. Spiritual: I'm not good enough.
* You can apply any physical challenge you're facing and the same rules apply--time management, procrastination, perfectionism, people-pleasing, self-doubt, etc.
The natural inclination would be to start a diet and exercise program, but you'd purely be chasing symptoms, which always feels like an obligation.
The key is to shift your focus from the symptomatic to the problematic plane.
The problem is you've embodied and now identify with some ill-defined experience(s) from your past that's caused you to feel inferior, insignificant, and unworthy.
A problem is you're stuck in a loop, taking the failure or rejection you've experienced and are subconsciously and unintentionally recreating those realities.
Notice the difference between the problem and a problem..they're not the same!
Until and unless you go deep, it's unlikely you'll ever get ahead of your symptom patterns.
I know that sounds pessimistic, but treating symptoms and compensations will never resolve root causes, ever.
Sure, you may reach your goals, but if you didn't enjoy the process and feel rewarded by your efforts, the sustainability of your progress will remain in question.
"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." Albert Einstein