Updated: Jul 28
When we're on paths seeking transformation of our Whole Person, one of the things often limiting us at an almost entirely subconscious level are the people around us.
WHY, you ask, would someone who loves me keep me from making positive changes?
It's worth remembering our brain is wired to keep us in safe environments, which means, it prefers the predictability, reliability, and even misery of the status quo, more than it's willing to embrace and embody the uncertainty of learning, growth, and evolution.
Last week, in Richard Rohr's daily meditation, he discussed Mary Magdalene, who was the first person Jesus appeared to after he had transformed (changed forms) into Christ. She immediately recognized and embraced him, to which he replied: "Do not cling to me..." (John 20:17).
Mary was clinging to her past, to a previous, comforting notion of Jesus, subconsciously maintaining her status quo and invariably his. Jesus knew he had to create a boundary so that he could ascend, which can be likened to our desires to improve and self-actualize. According to modern-day phrases, Jesus knew what was required to "reach his full potential" and "live his best life" and recognized that allowing attachments would only serve to limit this possibility.
The function of the clinging mechanism (commitment to sameness) is to avoid uninvited/unexpected change, which the brain interprets as catastrophic. When we attempt to change, even when it benefits those around us, we may not realize that we're also unintentionally asking them to change as well. In most cases, it'd be far easier to reject those changes than to embrace, embody, and adapt to them.
Understanding this process is imperative in the pursuit of an elevated consciousness as it removes a lot of resistance.
"Don't hate the player, change the game." Steve Harvey