The Whole Person Blog: Week Eight, Day Two, Part 1/2 - Courage, Compassion, and Connection
Writings inspired by Brene Brown: The Gifts of Imperfection - Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You The Power of Vulnerability Listening to Shame Call to Courage Netflix Trailer Monday, February 17th, 2020
Courage, Compassion, and Connection are what Brene describes as The Gifts of Imperfection, because, as well-intentioned as we may be to practice any of these qualities, it's never going to be expressed, received, or responded to perfectly. We'll say the "right thing" and get the wrong reaction, just as well as we can do the right thing, and it goes completely unnoticed. Not to mention, how much more the opposite is true, we can be horrible on the receiving end of these practices.
"Practicing courage, compassion, and connection in our daily lives is how we cultivate worthiness. The keyword is practice. Mary Daly, a theologian, writes, "Courage is like––it's a habitus, a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It's like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn to courage by couraging." The same is true for compassion and connection. We invite compassion into our lives when we act compassionately towards ourselves and others, and we feel connected in our lives when we reach out and connect."
I used to think of "The Gifts" as something you had to practice very consciously. However, in my MindBodySpirit® Coaching practice, I've comes to see these qualities as a natural expression of a positive identity and an elevated self-image. When someone is in good self-relationship, when they treat themselves this way, it's a natural expression to treat others the same way. On the other hand, when you suffer a strained self-relationship, and you're critical of and disconnected to yourself, exuding these qualities requires significant consciousness because they are not the norm. As Richard Rohr says: "How we do anything is how we do everything."
"Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart." Brene Brown