A client recently told me she cares to a fault.
What does that really mean?
I suppose it means caring without boundaries, and in turn, getting hurt by the people you're trying to help.
Though, there are two parts to getting hurt: it happening and you're allowing it.
By allowing it, I mean at a subconscious level of participation.
If you dig into this notion, the overcaring person is generally driven by fear-based emotions, such as shame, guilt, and anxiety.
They're using the opportunity to help as a way of gaining attention, feeling needed, and increasing self-value.
More often than not, it's a cry for love, and it rarely works because all love emanates from within.
If you can't receive self-love, you certainly can't accept other love, and you just may end up caring, caring to a fault.
"Immature love says I love you because I need you. Mature love says I need you because I love you."