The Whole Person Blog: Week Three, Day Three, Part 2/2 - Abundance phobia
This will probably be my favorite chapter to write on since I identify strongly with its message that in order to receive abundance, you have to feel worthy of it. In fact, this was the essence of the latest welcome video I recorded for my new website. IMHO, Brene Brown was responsible for initiating the vital conversation that's been helping our country heal from its worthiness epidemic. Our culture is so extrinsically motivated; it's no wonder we've lost our ability to look inside of ourselves, where our worthiness is always overflowing. Dr. Mario Martinez has a few words to say about this:
"Our culture determines the limits of acceptable, individual achievements in wealth, health, and love--the three components of abundance. And they impose consequences for violating those limits by inflicting the wounds of abandonment, betrayal, and shame. Abundance is usually a double-edged sword because it brings joy at the expense of banishment by the cultural editors who set ceilings for our achievements. I propose abundance is not sustainable without a strong sense of self-worth. Why not?. Because maintaining health, reaching wealth, and finding love require the capacity to accept that you are worthy of your good fortune."
I agree with Dr. Martinez that the archetypal wounds of shame, abandonment, and betrayal impact our worthiness, but not because of the event in and of itself, but more so our attachment to it. Invariably, we end up mistaking these experiences with our identity, believing what happened to us is who we are. This confusion causes us to establish a limited nature, diminishing our capacity to enjoy good fortune. This is not a problem that can be solved, as much as outgrown, and it happens by way of contemplating that your experiences simply are not your identity. Unfortunately, we often make matters worse when we try using action to reinstate our worthiness and disprove our past. Though full of positive intent, this egoic mechanism only deepens the wound. Ultimately, only a complete surrendering of our ego will allow us to include the unpleasant encounters of our past into our story, which permits us to transcend them.
Ironically, I just created a 30-day online course called The Whole Person Project that helps you break free from identification with ill-defining moments, rediscovering who you are apart from them. This restores your UNLIMITED IDENTITY, causing you to be free, and that freedom attracts all of your goals to you. It kicks-off Wednesday, February 12th, check it out!
"Health is an expression of guilt-free abundance." Dr. Mario Martinez