When we get stressed, it can be disconcerting and disorienting and difficult to make sense of how we got there and to move on with the rest of our day.
I share a simple framework with my clients to help them appreciate WHY they get stressed so that they can understand it at a causative level and release it before it becomes overwhelming and problematic.
Stress --> Attachment --> Painful Experience --> False Self
Behind just about every stress is an emotional attachment to something, a need for status, image, reputation, respect, control, power, predictability, certainty, order, etc. in an attempt to protect one's Identity.
Deep to attachments are painful experiences, defining moments interpreted as a rejection or lack of safety, leading to insecurity or unsettledness.
The false self, which only knows how to define itself by things outside of itself, is the only part of us that's stressed. Our True Self draws its life from within and does not define itself by painful experiences of the past.
It's said that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, so investing the time to explore and understand the chain reaction of our stressors will certainly inject quality into the years of our lives.
"Understanding of life begins with the understanding of patterns. "Fritjof Capra