Approaching this week from the heart…
Oftentimes, we head into Monday wondering how we can do this week "better."We consider what we want to do more and less of.Let's be honest, by noon time Monday, most of us are exactly where we were last Monday...feeling stuck, unable to change and uninspired.Life feels dull, repetitive and difficult.We intellectually know if we want a new result we have to take a new approach but feel confused as to where we should start.Our minds naturally wander to new tactics but our problems cannot be solved Read more
Choosing the emotional energy you want to create your day with…           
Most people start the day by rehearsing their problems, thinking about what has to get done and hoping to do something that honors their individual needs.This thought process is inherently centered on frustration, anxiety and guilt.In turn, this emotional energy will manifest itself in the form of events that will take place throughout your day.Frustration plays out in the form of unrealistic expectations, anxiety plays out in the form of procrastination and guilt plays out in the form of delayi Read more
A lack of transformation is a seeing problem…
We often blame a lack of transformation with a lack of doing the right things.We criticize ourselves for not sticking to our original plans, for aggressive all-or-none behavior, for fleeting motivation and for results that didn’t quite match our expectations and so on and so forth.By the way, self-criticism and transformation are like oil and water.We can look to the 4 stages of this change process to realize seeing is more important than doing: Awareness --> Accountability --> Action - Read more
The biggest challenge with surrender is the environment you grew up in…
“The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” Carl JungWe all get to a point in life where our egos fail us.The continuous need to feel worthy, be right, act superiorly, judge others, search for happiness in material things and calculate how we can get what we want gets olds and wears us down.As we near the edges of our own limited resources, we start looking for an abundance of Resources greater than our own.But the ego w Read more
Everyone is doing the best they can with what they’ve got…
It’s so easy to judge others when they’re not doing your best.However, criticism causes separateness and energetically contributes fear to the world.The alternative is to see that at any moment, everyone is doing the best they can with what they’ve got.This is a compassionate stance that appreciates we’re all byproducts of our environments.Is it possible that person can do better?Absolutely--but definitely not within an environment of judgment and criticism!A smile, an encouragement, a h Read more
Stepping back into the Flow…
When you’re in the Flow, there are no words to describe it.Life feels easy and spacious and you feel flexible and generous.And just as quickly as you get into it, you can fall out of it.Speechless, you wonder how it even happened?!The good news is, the Flow is still happening.You don’t need to recreate it as much as you simply step back into it.Think of a river, when you see the river flowing; you know it’s flowing because you can see it.Question: Is the river still flowing when you’re n Read more
The foundation is missing…
I see so many people with the best of intentions, come out of the gate running, headed for greatness, only to fall flat on their face and back into familiar ways.From personal experience, may I share a secret?You can only climb as high as your foundation is deep.By foundation, I mean having a fundamental structure in how you operate, which may include and is not limited to… Knowing your 3 most important, personal values Identifying your personal boundaries (what you do/don’t do) Honoring Read more
Peace, love and joy for no reason…
Peace, love and joy for no reason… Culturally, we’ve been conditioned to need a reason to experience positive feelings:1. Finish your to-do list to feel peace2. Make someone happy to feel love3. Get outside of your comfort zone to feel joy This is the Newtonian model of cause and effect that suspends happiness and relies on external events to feel internally satisfied. No, thank you! We’re all biologically and spiritually equipped to access those states at anytime, for no reason at all Read more
When I’m in a funk…
...first and foremost, I create space for it. I don’t try to change it or fix it as much as I try to allow it and understand it.  This is not the advice of our instant gratification culture. Culturally, we tend to label our state of mind and body and pop the appropriate pill.  I start by observing it, typically in the form of journaling, which is almost always cathartic and relieving.  Then I choose to accept my state, typically in the form of meditation, where I take full ownership and r Read more
Choice and free will…
I see t-shirts and posters that flaunt: “Quitting is not an option.”Of course it is!If quitting weren’t an option, committing would have no significance.Without free will, having choices are a moot point.
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