Facts and stories
Fact: a thing that is indisputably the caseStory: what you tell yourself in relationship to the factFact: I’m overweightStory: “I live to eat,” “My whole family is overweight,” “Sometimes I get bored.”Fact: I’m in debtStory: “This item never goes on sale,” “You only live once,” “I don’t make enough money.”Fact: I’m a people-pleaserStory: “Putting others first makes me feel good about myself,” “If I don’t help them, who will,” “My mother was a people-pl Read more
Putting diet and exercise in it’s rightful place
In just a few weeks, you’ll have millions of people abusing diet and exercise programs to prove their worth.They’ll never say that, they’ll use the code word: “Improving my health.”There are several problems with this… You may end up looking good but you won’t feel any better because your outer world cannot heal your inner world The most common struggles of perfectionism, people-pleasing and self-doubt cannot by healed in the physical realm because they’re spiritual issues Thi Read more
Provoking transformation in small pockets of time…
I fundamentally take a "pocket-change" approach towards transforming my life.I realize an extra 30m of sleep each night is one week of sleep over the course of a year--like pocket change, it all adds up!One of my key strategies has been to leverage small pockets of time where I had previously engaged in repetitive, useless behaviors (stinkin thinkin, checking emails, rehearsing my past, etc.) and now, intentionally invest my time in chipping away at important projects (writing blogs, relationshi Read more
Premature action is just that…
Our instant-gratification culture has little capacity to delay tactics for the creation of a strategy that actually achieves results.We'd rather exert effort for effort's sake so we can claim the busy badge to justify our urgent nature.Any action taken prior to the formation of a sound plan is always premature action...a shot in the dark at best.This may be where the phrase "going nowhere fast" originated.This is a reflection of the unsettled nature of our nation and our struggle to find joy out Read more
Addition by subtraction…
I couldn't say it strongly or often enough, my deepest transformation has come by way of thinking less, doing less and acquiring less…which is contrary to the more is better mentality of our scarce culture.Truth is, we're already whole, complete and worthy.Buying into the lie that you are "not enough" until you have more money, free time, status, influence and health is a reflection of the false self, who's deemed happiness as an extrinsic quality long ago.Change is not a matter of doing more, Read more
The holiday Spirit is “missing”…
I love how people claim the Spirit of the holidays are gone.I wonder if they realize they are the Spirit.Be merry, be joyous and be thankful.Let's appreciate the difference between facts and stories.Fact: The Spirit has never left; it is YOU!Story: What you tell yourself to justify how you're feeling.Let's stop looking for our external environments to fulfill us and choose to bring forth our Spirit's, because we can.
Where my blogs “come from”…
People often ask where I get my inspiration for my daily blog.It’s no secret really; I’m simply paying attention to my life and interactions with others and documenting my experiences.I’m sorry if this lessens your admiration or demystifies the source of my daily revelations.I think the real challenge is this means you can write a daily blog too…if you want to.
How to stay in a Flow state…
If you've ever been in the "Flow," words like fluid, dynamic, adaptable, patient, spacious, peaceful, loving, joyous, content, fulfilled, willing, optimistic, resourceful, courageous, generous, effective, efficient, and productive, experientially make lots of sense. The feeling of this state is second to none and you'll never settle for anything less.  Though, once you start idolizing a Flow state and it becomes a means to an end, you begin entering a state of friction.  Part of the joy of be Read more
You don’t need to solve the problem…
Swiss psychologist, Carl Jung said: “Our greatest problems cannot be solved, only outgrown.”The ego loves the role of “problem-solver” as it draws attention to itself for being smart, being creative or being right and falsely claims it’s worth from such events.I have a coaching practice and it would seem I’m hired to solve problems and in a sense I am and in another sense, I’m not a solver at all…only a pointer to the truth: love, suffering, reality, humility, grace, surrender, e Read more
Evidence of mismanaged expectations…
Next time you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed or feeling resentful, it’s likely someone or something fell short of your expectations.You have a few options… Try shaming, guilting or threatening them into conforming Judge them, blame them and exclude them from your life Surrender your need for control, detach from the pain and let reality beThere of course are all sorts of options in between and if your equation lacks love, it’s not serving either of you.
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