The schedule is a tattletale…
Whatever symptoms your clients present with (weight gain, low energy, anxiety, etc.), you need look no further than their schedule to understand the drivers behind their symptoms.What they do each day and how they do it is really easy to see and understand but it’s honestly not that important.Your primary focus should be on why they do what they do…just know why-based questions invariably opens an emotional can of worms.As you identify leakages within their schedule, activities that seemingl Read more
The shape of change…
Until we get the “shape” of change right, we’ll never get change right.Change is often thought of as a pyramid: top-down, all-or-none, right-or-wrong, good-or-bad, judgmental, fearful, critical, legalistic, dogmatic, rigid, certain, difficult and defining and is often absent of dynamism and bliss.If this is what change looks and feels like, it's no wonder we can’t fall in love with the process.I know I’m not telling you anything new when I say change is a repetitive sequence of rising Read more
What matters most is choosing again…
Whatever goal you choose, you intuitively understand the path is not linear.Though, when your intentions fail to align with your desired outcomes, you get upset when you’re expectations aren’t met…as if you’re in control.When you encounter a necessary setback, while painful, it's your opportunity to choose yourself again.This is your transformational zone—don’t hate yourself for it, it was never supposed to go exactly as you had planned!Each time you do, your resilience improves, cou Read more
Facts and stories
Fact: a thing that is indisputably the caseStory: what you tell yourself in relationship to the factFact: I’m overweightStory: “I live to eat,” “My whole family is overweight,” “Sometimes I get bored.”Fact: I’m in debtStory: “This item never goes on sale,” “You only live once,” “I don’t make enough money.”Fact: I’m a people-pleaserStory: “Putting others first makes me feel good about myself,” “If I don’t help them, who will,” “My mother was a people-pl Read more
Putting diet and exercise in it’s rightful place
In just a few weeks, you’ll have millions of people abusing diet and exercise programs to prove their worth.They’ll never say that, they’ll use the code word: “Improving my health.”There are several problems with this… You may end up looking good but you won’t feel any better because your outer world cannot heal your inner world The most common struggles of perfectionism, people-pleasing and self-doubt cannot by healed in the physical realm because they’re spiritual issues Thi Read more
Provoking transformation in small pockets of time…
I fundamentally take a "pocket-change" approach towards transforming my life.I realize an extra 30m of sleep each night is one week of sleep over the course of a year--like pocket change, it all adds up!One of my key strategies has been to leverage small pockets of time where I had previously engaged in repetitive, useless behaviors (stinkin thinkin, checking emails, rehearsing my past, etc.) and now, intentionally invest my time in chipping away at important projects (writing blogs, relationshi Read more
Premature action is just that…
Our instant-gratification culture has little capacity to delay tactics for the creation of a strategy that actually achieves results.We'd rather exert effort for effort's sake so we can claim the busy badge to justify our urgent nature.Any action taken prior to the formation of a sound plan is always premature action...a shot in the dark at best.This may be where the phrase "going nowhere fast" originated.This is a reflection of the unsettled nature of our nation and our struggle to find joy out Read more
Addition by subtraction…
I couldn't say it strongly or often enough, my deepest transformation has come by way of thinking less, doing less and acquiring less…which is contrary to the more is better mentality of our scarce culture.Truth is, we're already whole, complete and worthy.Buying into the lie that you are "not enough" until you have more money, free time, status, influence and health is a reflection of the false self, who's deemed happiness as an extrinsic quality long ago.Change is not a matter of doing more, Read more
The holiday Spirit is “missing”…
I love how people claim the Spirit of the holidays are gone.I wonder if they realize they are the Spirit.Be merry, be joyous and be thankful.Let's appreciate the difference between facts and stories.Fact: The Spirit has never left; it is YOU!Story: What you tell yourself to justify how you're feeling.Let's stop looking for our external environments to fulfill us and choose to bring forth our Spirit's, because we can.
Where my blogs “come from”…
People often ask where I get my inspiration for my daily blog.It’s no secret really; I’m simply paying attention to my life and interactions with others and documenting my experiences.I’m sorry if this lessens your admiration or demystifies the source of my daily revelations.I think the real challenge is this means you can write a daily blog too…if you want to.
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