Many people suffer depression because of things that happened to them. Things that were unfair, unjust, unnecessary, painful, scarring and things in which they had no control over. My heart always breaks for these people, of which I am one.
On the other hand, there are times when we participate in behaviors (often subconsciously/on auto-pilot) that promote or maintain a depressed state. My hope is this awareness will help you manage choices you have control over to move yourself in a better direction, one decision at a time…
- Eating when you’re not hungry
- Staying busy to escape anxiety
- Trying to control everything and everyone
- Going with the flow instead of creating boundaries
- Blaming others instead of assuming accountability
- Expecting material possessions/events to make you happy
- Believing you’re the only who you feels that way
- Playing victim rather than exerting efforts to breakthrough
- Placing your wants ahead of your fundamental needs
- Living the same day today as you did yesterday
The solution to all of these scenarios is presence. Becoming aware of these humiliations are necessary to rise above them. Accessing the moment, without the need to judge it, negate it or explain it is a good starting point.