When changes flows from the inside-out, it’s fueled and driven by LOVE.
When your thought process is centered on enhancing the parts of yourself that no one can “see,” such as self-awareness, self-discovery, self-acceptance, self-respect, self-compassion, etc. the behaviors that spring forth from that space are enjoyable, rewarding and sustainable. In addition, you’ll find this approach towards long-term satisfaction equally transforms those around you, a true win-win.
Now, you can guess what drives change from the outside-in: FEAR.
If you’re thinking that next thing is going to make you happy: money, cars, clothes, goal attainment, status, likes, praise, reassurance, whatever…your search will never end because the ego is insatiable. The only promise with superficial change is that your resources will run out long before you discover long-term satisfaction.
All in all, change is great! Along with it comes abundant life experiences filled with challenges, setbacks, failures, opportunities, learning, humility and growth…go for it! Just ask yourself: What’s driving me to want to make this change? Is it externally-focused: What will others think? Or, internally focused: How will this make me feel? One feeds LOVE and the FEAR and whichever you feed often, GROWS.
“If we do not transform our pain, we will most assuredly transmit it.” Richard Rohr