When clients come to us to get from where they are to where they want to be, we’ve found it helpful to give them a mental framework for getting there.
Where you are today is called your Current Status and it’s full of certainty, predictability and reliability but at the expense of dissatisfaction. Think known misery.
Where you want to be tomorrow is called your Preferred Status and it’s full of uncertainty, unpredictability and unreliability but at the expense of long-term satisfaction. Think unknown joy.
In other words, there’s a trade off. If you want to stay where you are, there is known misery. On the other hand, if you want to get where you want to be there is unknown joy. Neither is path is right or wrong or free of pain or fear. It’s simply a matter of trading known for unknown.
The space in between the two is called the GAP and it’s full of everything that resists you from living your best life. This can be anything from procrastination to poor time management to shame to self-doubt to indecisiveness, etc.
The key to leading a Preferred Status Lifestyle is getting comfortable doing the difficult work of breaking through the GAP and finding the courage to love and believe in yourself. It’s not diet or exercise or much of anything to do with our external world, it’s an inside job through and through.
“If the path be beautiful, let us not ask where it leads.” Anatole France