“Before you can change the world around you, you must learn to change the world within you.” Said someone really smart but strangely anonymous
As a culture, we spend far too much time trying to improve our physical appearance. But of course we do, because we’re a culture that judges books by their covers. We’ll do anything we can to avoid the pain of judgment, criticism and the infamous stank eye.
We also commit to the Body because it’s only the surface layer of who we are and requires a very shallow commitment. However, deep to the Body are the dimensions of the Mind and Spirit; where most of our wounds lie and opportunities for deep, meaningful transformation exists.
It takes a brave soul to step back and forge the path less traveled to address their issues beneath the superficial layers of life and patiently allow their body to reflect that healing process. Before you can change the world around you, you must change the world within you.
To help my clients breakthrough, I’ll ask them to start forming the habit of journaling…a simple method of connecting with Mind and Spirit and direct access to the root of their wounds.
Below are ten topics, themes and questions to journal around. Customize them to make them specific to your situation.
- How has my upbringing impacted who I am today and where can I grow?
- What am I communicating to myself when I don’t prioritize my fundamental needs?
- How are my numbing behaviors (eating, drinking, blaming, watching TV, etc.) helping me to lead my preferred life?
- Why do I need others approval and acceptance to feel good about myself?
- Why does my work define my worth? Who am I without it? How can I separate my identity from my 9-5?
- How can I love myself more so that my marriage bounces back to what it used to be?
- Forget my goals…what are my dreams? How can I start participating in that reality?
- What boundaries can I create in my life that support my preferred status?
- What does my confident self look, act and feel like and what’s the gap between us?
- When I’m feeling frustrated, anxious or vulnerable…what’s a constructive way of dealing with those emotions?
We can no longer think so linearly about our health and ourselves. Our thoughts, emotions and feelings (the world within us), drive everything we do and until we understand how they impact our behaviors, we’ll remain stuck on the surface (the world around us) hoping that diet and exercise or that next program will eventually start working.
“The more room you give yourself to express your true thoughts and feelings, the more room there is for your wisdom to emerge.” Marianne Williamson