How success feels

There are two aspects of success…

  1. The pursuit of success and the effort it takes
  2. The outcome

When we think of success, I believe the majority of us think of all the thoughts, feelings, experiences associated with the outcome: notoriety, wealth, flexibility, capacity and control; more than we think of the effort it takes.

While in pursuit of success, thoughts range from: “I didn’t realize how hard this was going to be” to “that wasn’t so bad” to “I hope this will work” to “I nailed it” to “I failed again.”

Feelings range from anticipation to fearful, doubtful and frustrated to joyful, excited, fulfilled and inspired, back to confused, worried, overwhelmed and distracted.

Experiences range from your tenth “NO” to another delay; getting your hopes up and having them fall back down to a breakthrough with momentous activity and productive days and back to an unforeseen setback, sleepless nights and uncertainty.

There are highs and lows and more than anything, success is a management process. It is not a linear process with everything always on the rise, full of fame and fortune.

If you can manage your expectations and condition yourself to identify painful thoughts, feelings and experiences as success itself, the odds are in your favor.

 

“Satisfaction lies in the effort, not the attainment, full effort is full victory.” Mahatma Gandhi

The sum of your decisions

Who you are today is the sum of every decision you’ve made and every experience you’ve had to date…a representation of the principle of adaptability.

The plot thickens when you consider every decision you’ve ever made is driven by what you believe about yourself, which was created by way of your experiences growing up.

These fundamental concepts are sorely misunderstood when it comes to making behavioral changes and is in fact why most people fail to manifest their desired change.

There’s a lot of behavioral energy that needs to be recognized, slowed down and misdirected long before any noticeable changes are evident and a lack of understanding may make you feel like you’re going nowhere fast.

The truth is, we should have been taught throughout school how successful behavior changes are attained and sustained.

We needed to understand how our emotions drive us, how our environment affects us, how to manage realistic expectations, how to focus on effort more than outcome and how to be resilient in the face of adversity, setbacks and failures.

The past is past so lets get focused on what you need to know…

  1. Your behaviors are driven your beliefs
  2. You can change your beliefs over time with redefining experiences, which take courage, commitment and compassion
  3. Your default is the path of least resistance, so presence is required
  4. When you behave protectively, ask why and follow it up with a meditation, journal entry, prayer or a deep breathing practice
  5. Change is a process, not an event—you can’t set it and forget it

The decisions you make today will either reinforce or redefine who it is you want to be…the beauty of free will.

 

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” Nelson Mandela

What If the Super Bowl…

What would happen if the collective energy put into planning and preparing for the Super Bowl was invested in feeding the hungry, restoring broken relationships or teaching our youth how their emotions impact their thoughts and actions?

I don’t want to be yet another “what if” guy and I’m certainly not opposed to entertainment but it’s a sad reality where our cultures priorities and values are. That’s a tremendous amount of resources placed into an event that benefits so few people.

The best any one person can do is to be the change they wish to see in the world and find others who share in their interests.

Invisible Resistance

If what you believe about yourself is inconsistent with who or what or where you want to be in your life…you’re up against a very real, yet invisible resistance.  Most people refer to it as laziness, demotivation or lack of will power but those are labels describing fear.

Your upbringing and experiences are primarily responsible for creating your belief systems and while neither can be changed, new experiences can change what you believe about yourself. How cool?

Behaviors that reinforce what we already believe about ourselves exists inside of our comfort zone, while redefining behaviors can only be found beyond our comforts.

At the edge of our beliefs where comfort meets courage, you will encounter the invisible resistance that feels like a 500 pound weight vest…expect a racing heart rate, sweaty palms and even tremors when you’re about to redefine who you are.

The key to breaking through this resistance is to visualize your life on the other end of it. Remember, change happens in the Mind-First! This is where most people fail to invest their time and it’s evident by their lack of transformation.

We largely live in a culture where seeing is believing and this lack of faith perfectly manifests as sameness, comfort and fearful living. However, when you embrace a believing is seeing mentality and appreciate that taking a risk on yourself is success in and of itself, the results will be anything but invisible.

“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” Mark Twain

How you know you’re on the road of courage

You’re scared!

Your heart is racing, palms are sweating and your focus is intense.

You’ve come face to face with your self-limiting beliefs.

You’re at the threshold of your comfort zone.

You’re about to make a redefining decision that changes the game.

You chose yourself because it’s never the right time and therefore; it’s always the right time.

You’re on the other side of it wondering why you haven’t done it sooner.

You’re no longer afraid of creating boundaries, speaking up and saying no.

You’re self esteem and confidence start catching up to you.

You’re noticing that you’re becoming who you ought to be.

Having served the health-fitness-wellness industry for 16 years, I can confidently say a lack of courage is the number one reason people fail to reach their goals. It has little to do with anyone’s ability to stick with diet or exercise, it’s a matter of digging deep, acting as if and believing before you’re able to see.

 

“Courage is not the absence of fear, it’s acting in spite of it.” Mark Twain

Change your position…enhance your life

The human body has an infinite capacity for movement…INFINITE!

Yet, we’re performing the same exercises, from the same positions, at the same speed, in the same range of motion over and again. Then, we wonder why our body’s break down over time; even though we’re doing the “right” things.

This is especially why training on machines is dangerous over time, because they decondition our body’s natural affinity for dynamic, variable movement.

The bottom line is variety builds capacity.

Think about the ambidextrous athlete who can perform her craft (shooting a basketball, swinging a bat or throwing a powerful hook)…it’s impressive because she has a fuller capacity than the majority of her competition.

Changing your position as you move and exercise your body gives you a fuller capacity for flexibility, for strength, for resilience, for balance, for agility and for any and every other performance attribute you need to be conditioned for life.

Next time you do anything from a standing position; try it in all these ways…

  • Feet neutral (hip width apart)
  • Right foot ahead of left
  • Left foot ahead of right
  • Feet narrow
  • Feet wide
  • Feet turned in
  • Feet turned out

There is so much sophistication built into this simple concept…

  • You’ve brilliantly turned one exercise or movement into seven (variety builds capacity)
  • You’re feeding different and varying degrees of movement into all the joints of the body (restoring movement health)
  • You’ve kept yourself engaged in what you’re feeling rather than watching the TV while mindlessly walking on the treadmill (integrating mind and body)
  • You’re performing new workouts each time but without abandoning the basic movement patterns (developing movement skills)
  • You’re tapping into what makes children so fascinating: curiosity, creativity and expressive (perpetual youthful living)

From a distance, you’ll get lots of stares but just as many inquiries and while on the surface your strategy is simple in nature, it’s complex in application.

Change your position…change your function…enhance your life!

 

“It’s a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the strength and beauty of which his body is capable.” Socrates