Lead or Follow

Lead or followSome of us are born leaders. Some of us, followers. Whether we’re influenced by genetics, upbringing or circumstance, we are certainly all leaders of our own lives. Every decision, every choice, every action, every reaction, we have to own it. Otherwise, we lead a life of reactivity — responding to a life outside of our control.

Many times we abandon our choices about our health and well-being. We let the gym tell us how to exercise instead of moving because we can. We let big pharma pump us full of drugs that cover up symptoms instead of solve problems. We let the food industry saturate our food with fake ingredients that aid the bottom line instead of nourishing us. We let our work lives spiral out of control in an effort to keep up instead of telling work it has to wait.

Yes, these are all choices we execute every day; opportunities we have to be responsible for the efforts required to lead our lives — not just follow along.

The truth is all followers are empowered with the ability to lead their own lives. That choice is an essential one to make.

The “I’m Not Motivated” Solution

Smotivationo often clients come to us looking for motivation to reach their goals. While it’s good for us to be a source of motivation initially, I believe it’s more important we help them motivate themselves for long term success. So, how exactly can we do that? Try these simple steps to empower your clients to find the motivation that comes from within:

1. Ask first what prompted them to contact you
This simple question is essential to understanding their motivation. The answers are the emotional drivers that you will use to keep them focused and engaged in your service.

2a. Nail down a short-term goal and map it out
It’s OK to ask about a long-term goal but you need to break it down into bite-size chunks. Map it out over 3, 6, 12 months or however long you’ve determined is a realistic amount of time to reach the goal. This helps your client know you’ve listened and are strategically preparing them for success. Avoid setting more than one goal at a time as this will dilute your and their efforts.

2b. Planting the seed
*Ask your clients if they reached their goals in their desired timeframe if they’d feel motivated to continue? When they answer yes, help them understand that our motivation comes from our actions, not our words or our intentions. Action = motivation = The “I’m not motivated” solution!

3. Identify the behavior changes and manage expectations
Ask clients how they spend their day? When do they wake up? How do they feel in the morning? When and what do they eat? What do they do in their downtime? When do they go to bed? The answers to these questions will help you understand the behavior changes they need to make.

4. Present them with a focused 30-Day Challenge
Find out what they’d like to accomplish in the next 30 days and present it in the form of a challenge. The change will focus on a single behavioral change: lights out at 10 pm, eating breakfast every day, complete 10 training sessions, etc. You will have to decide which behavior change will have the biggest impact on their life and make it a focused effort.

5. Manage expectations and create accountability
Review this process with your clients and reassure them you are responding to their desire to make change. It’s crucial to manage their expectations for the challenge and create an accountability system in which you can openly discuss their actions.

6. Connect the dots
Praise your clients for their achievements by acknowledging their efforts. Then, help them plainly see how their behavior change (effort) lead to their toned body, dropped dress size, improved comfort, etc. Praising their efforts helps them establish a growth mindset and prepares them for the continued challenge ahead.

At the end of the day, actions create change and that is a motivating process. Helping your client understand their actions create and maintain motivation will position them for sustainable success.

 

Flip Flops Can Jack You Up

flip-flops-on-the-beachWith the summer weather hanging in there, sliding into your most comfortable pair of flip flops is still one of the best feelings of the season. The trick is, this comfy footwear comes at a price—a check your feet have to pay.

Consider for a moment how your feet work and how what they do affects the rest of the body. The fact is, our feet always work as a team and sometimes that requires they do different things at different times. Walking is the perfect example of this. When we’re walking, our front foot becomes flexible just as our back foot becomes rigid. Makes sense, right? So, even though they are doing different things, they are working together to help us walk.

So, what does all this have to do with your faithful flip flops? Whether or not you realize it, you have to consciously keep flip flops on your feet. Try walking with your feet fully relaxed in a pair and you’ll quickly find that the person in front of you is catching them in the back of his head! You actually contract and pinch your foot/toe muscles to keep your flip flops on your feet when you’re walking. So that means that the flexibility your front foot needs when you walk is not happening. This can give you some real issues over time. When your foot’s busy trying to keep it’s flip flop on, it can’t put all its focus on connecting to ground and it forces your knee, hip and lower back to work extra hard to pick up the slack. Unfortunately, it’s just a matter of time before all this flip flop wearing starts messin’ with your foot’s function.

But here’s the good news. You can keep your feet fashionable and functional by giving them what they need after you give those flip flops a rest for the day. Keep reading for this remedy:

OBJECTIVE: Restore flexibility and stability back to your feet after wearing flip flops (applies to high heels, dress shoes and work boots too)

MELT: Melting is a form of releasing muscles to give them a healthy range of movement and enhanced blood flow. Use one of your favorite self massage tools (foam roll, tennis ball, etc.) to give your feet what they need.
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MOLD: Molding is another way of saying “mobilize the joint” and “stretch the muscles”. This is most effective after self massaging the muscles in your feet and calves.

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MOVE: Moving your body after melting and molding allows you to develop control and strengthen new ranges of motion. Movements should be springy in nature to help your muscles work most efficiently.

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As you can see, restoring foot function is easy and will keep you both looking and feeling good – while making the most of these warm summer days. If you have any questions, please email me at mike@conditionforlife.com. Be well.

The Upside of Failure

resilienceYou set out today to be better than you were yesterday. Then you got that call, email, text, letter or had that conversation that threw a wrench in your day. You could go talk about it and continue to give it your precious attention and energy or you may decide it’s a smarter use of your time to take it for what it is (probably not a big deal) and stay focused on being the better you.

The ability to take a hit and get back up is called resilience: A form of your character that can only be built through failure. So look at the upside: you failed, learned from it, got back up and chose the better you. Rock on, there are brighter days ahead.